More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse. ~Doug Larson
One advantage of marriage is that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again. ~Judith Viorst
Of course parents should be commended for one little thing they do: maintain the existence of humanity. I praise them for that, but I think they're both heroes and suckers."
I feel like this is pointing out a major flaw in our society. It's all about self. Of course having (and raising) children is hard! However, that does not mean it is something to be avoided or shirked. This reminds me of the scripture in the Book of Mormon: "Wo unto them that good, and good evil, that put for light, and light for darkness, that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!"
(2 Nephi 15:20)
Then, I noticed some other articles. One study pointed out: "These research findings, of course, fly in the face of our cultural dogma that proclaims it impossible for people to achieve an emotionally fulfilling and healthy life unless they become parents. And that’s a problem, because the vast majority of American men and women eventually have children, yet conditions in our society make it nearly impossible for them to reap all the emotional benefits of doing so.”
Again, the phrasing of this article points to a problem in our society rather than a problem with having children. I found that interesting.
One article had a quote that I loved: "But when it comes to happiness and parenting, I'd argue two things: First, the fact that we can focus so intensely on personal happiness means that we've got it better than most people in the world. And second, sure, when you look at the cost analysis, having kids isn't strictly rational—but then again, neither are many other things we do. Focusing on how much you hate parenthood isn't helpful when it's still one of the most important jobs we have."
I actually really enjoyed this article. I would recommend it. This article recognizes that parenting is very difficult, however, that with sacrifice, it is something that can be done.
This life is not meant to be easy, contrary to popular belief, and happiness actually does not come from doing nothing. Happiness comes from working hard at something worthwhile. When we are doing the Lord's work we will find peace, satisfaction, and happiness.
That doesn't mean that there aren't hard and sad times. We all have to overcome adversity. I'm grateful parenting isn't any different. It puts us outside of ourselves. It forces us to be better, to work harder, and to love differently than we have loved before.
( is always a spiritual necessity even if, for some, is not an economic necessity." “Put Your Shoulder to the Wheel” Neal A. Maxwell, April 1998 General Conference)
(That's my momma on her dad's lap)